Soulmates, Twinflames, Karmics
Whether you are well-versed or new to exploring spirituality there are buzz words that you’ll hear be thrown around often. The downside to that is these terms become skewed or illusionary in meaning like most buzz words. Today I’d like to add a layer of understanding to the rose colored glasses people tend to look through when contemplating Soul Mates, Twin Flames, and Karmic connections.
Insert the “Let me hold your hand when I say this because I will be shattering an illusion built by ego and may trigger your cognitive dissonance” discretion warning here.
Twin flames and Karmics aren’t distinct individualistic or fated connections. They are all branches of having a soul mate — if they are even a soul mate.
A Soul Mate is essentially a study buddy your soul chose to learn a lesson through in it’s next incarnation. The dynamic of the relationship is up to who you guys are in this lifetime which is why soul mates can be platonic, familial, or romantic. Either way a lesson will be learned for better or for worse.
That being said, in this life time finding a soul mate is like being in the same class with the goal of hopefully graduating together. Granted, mirroring is a prominent function of relationships, soul mates tend to be inverted versions of each other. Clients often ask me [in romance] “What can I do so that they can learn their half of the lesson??” which in this example would translate to “How many of their assignments can I do for them to pass?” or worse, clients may take their partners struggle as “Am I somehow failing individually and it is manifesting as them not growing?”
What I like to remind them of is even if you guys are in the same course it is still up to each student to study, turn in assignments, and pass the class. Even if you could do their assignments for them, they’d still fail the final because they never learned! That doesn’t mean you start failing your courses to “stay aligned” with them, graduate and there will always be someone on par with you. If they need to be held back and go through school without you that is still them finally learning their lesson.
Now in my opinion you only truly get one Karmic (the worst of the ‘for worse’, similar to not being able to drink a certain type of liquor because of a devastating night — you can still have a crazy night but you’ve learned exclusively to never take a specific road again). Anything after that, even if you guys both don’t ‘graduate’ at the same time doesn’t mean you guys weren’t soul mates or you were Karmic. Ideally when a connection gets to graduate together is when I would put the title of Twin Flame on a connection despite me not using either term in my personal practice to avoid the fantasy of it all.
As always I hope this added another layer of understanding to themes we hear thrown around pretty often. In sum: Not every failed relationship is a karmic one, not even soul mate will be romantic or a twin flame, and there is no “only certain people are destined to have a twin flame” business. It’s about honoring yourself and both parties putting their best foot forward improving themselves so they can be a healthy counterpart.
